Shosh, this post is specifically for you.
I’m not sure where to start since there is such a huge gap in our shared lives and communications this past decade as I live in exile due to racial persecution by government thugs. (FYI, based on the facts of the case, a former judge and refugee lawyer urged us to seek international protection — otherwise, we would likely have met the same fate as George Floyd, Patrick Lyoya, and others.)
Let’s start with your CV since that animated this post.
I am immensely proud of what you have accomplished on your own without much guidance from my vaunted siblings with their numerous advance degrees. Their failure to guide you is on them and will forever darken them in my eyes. We all lead busy lives, but if we cannot make priority family members and loved ones, then we are no better than beasts of burden. I’m proud of that you seem to have found your bearing, charted a path for yourself, and have gained leadership experience en route.
It broke my heart that last year, you worked janitorial service. Here I am helping the children of friends and others gain admission to top schools, more than a million dollars in scholarships, find great internships that propel them towards their desired careers, etc., yet I cannot help my own children because the fascist government thugs threatened to put you kids in greater harm’s way — in situations where studies after studies have shown that you guys would be SIX TIMES more likely to be killed than in the general population and 4-28 TIMES more likely to be sexually and/or physically abused — if I ever tried to contact you directly. Those thugs are in the Devil’s employ and serve their master well by ruining lives.
First, remove that entry from your CV. Not everything you do must be listed. Before you say or do anything, think it through: what are the benefits of including this in my CV? what are the costs? Unless you want to write for journals for the housekeeping industry what good does it serve to mention you did housekeeping when you want to become a journalist?
Second, if that was part of a work-study grant, then great. If not, you’d be better off finding paid and unpaid internships related to your areas of interest. Apply for jobs writing on-line for newspapers of repute. Build your reputation that way. Anyone can create their own blog and say whatever they want, but value comes from what others of import say about you and your skills. For example, I can toot my horn all day to little effect, but can win more people over by showing my kudos files of letters and emails I have received from presidents/CEOs of companies, vice presidents, and other leaders.
In other words, do your best, then let others speak on your behalf. This strategy is, of course, predicated on the strength of the speaker. It would be of little value to have a janitor extol the virtues of your writing. However, such statements from an editor of a reputable newspaper or journal would go a long way.
Start moving down that path. Talk to your professors and other trusted professionals (e.g., do informational interviews with major news editors or journalists you admire) about how best to gain a foothold in that competitive field. Our university has a great journalism program. I hope you are making good use of resources there.
Get to know your professors! Show up at their office hours. Ask questions. Ask their advice. Ask to be their research assistant. Once they get to know you, ask for recommendations for internships, etc. Asians are idiots to not take advantage of the wealth of resources at their disposals. The professors are there FOR YOU, TO HELP YOU as a student.
Write. Get published! Anywhere. Yes, go big, but also go small. Just get your name out there first. Do the necessary grunt work. There is no short cut. You want to become a writer? Write, then show me what you have written and how receptive the audience has been.
Don’t limit yourself at this point to any particular demographics. For example, when I aspired to be a good lawyer, I never limited myself to being a good Asian lawyer. Why would I? I aspired to work for or with top lawyers and organizations in my field of practice and have been blessed with opportunities to do just that. Luck is 95% sweat, as they say, and my case was no different: I’ve gone months working 12 to 13-hour days for 7-day weeks, weeks working on 1 hour of sleep a night, etc. If you care about something enough, you’ll find a way to make it happen.
Remember, you are not alone! There are good and kind people out there willing to help you. Your job is to find and ask for help.
Strive to be a big fish in the big pond. Let others of lesser skills and intelligence than I know what YOU have to jostle for spots in the little pond.
Part of your career development should include community engagement and service. Look for ways to give back to your community. No one likes a selfish prick. My community services at the University (Freshmen Interest Group leader, Co-coordinator of the Academic Peer Advising program, etc.) resulted in my being given the Dean’s Service Award, which helped me gain admission to graduate school at Duke University and other top universities as well as a full scholarship.
If you are interested in teaching, practice. Volunteer to tutor kids at risk. Talk to professors at the College of Education.
My point is use your time wisely. Before committing to an activity or group, think your way through and see if it would be the best use of your time in the time you have remaining in your college career.
Maximize your college experience and use it to grow as an individual and as a leader. Part of the college experience is the exploration of your interests. Take singing lessons, karate, acting, philosophy, history, art history, and anything else you fancy if you can. I double majored in college (Political Science and Honors in Psychology, writing my thesis on child psychology) and used to average 19-21 credit hours per quarter while working and doing community service.
Expand your horizons! Join different groups to explore the right mix that meets your needs.
Make friends! Talk to people. Learn to play hackie sack, skate, ski, paddleboard, etc.
Oh, Shosh, college has so much to offer! The only thing that can limit you is you!
Consider grad school. I’ve not looked into the numbers recently, but it used to be that only 10% of those with college degrees go on to get graduate degrees and only 3% get doctorates. This alone sets you apart.
More importantly, advance degrees from top programs will not only give you the technical expertise you need, but also provide abundant opportunities to meet and get to know great people in the field while working with the next generation of future leaders in that field. When I was studying at Duke, I remember a professor who had received his doctorate from Harvard saying many of his classmates from Harvard were now in leadership posts throughout the country. In a way, the same could be said of the 26 students from my graduate program at Duke.
Most importantly, advance degrees help you leap forward in your career path. For example, one of my siblings with only a bachelor’s degree worked for more than a decade before reaching the first rung of management. On the other hand, I came in with a doctorate and made management within a year and a half. (Mind you, this was the period when, among other things, I worked on 1 hour of sleep per night for weeks and worked my ass off to get my analyses published in toto by the BNA’s Daily Labor Report and to be recognized as one of four major players on top priority legislation by the Legal Times.)
As you continue your college career, try to keep your options for graduate school open by bearing in mind what they seek in candidates
What We Look For
https://college.harvard.edu/admissions/apply/what-we-look
What Do Grad Schools Look for in Students?
https://www.thoughtco.com/what-do-grad-schools-look-for-1685141
Grad School Requirements: What You Need for Admission
https://www.prepscholar.com/gre/blog/grad-school-requirements/
I close with a reminder that college isn’t all about grades and the filling of pails: it’s about personal growth and development, building connections with those you’ll likely encounter in your work life, and finding what not only lights your fire but will sustain it for the remainder of your life.
I hope you are making full use of the wealth of resources and opportunities at your disposal. I pray for you guys daily and look forward to the day when we can reunite as a family.
All my love, always and forever,
Dad