2 years and 267 days. Stay away from sodas and other things full of high fructose corn syrup.

http://www.newswise.com/articles/high-fructose-diet-slows-recovery-from-traumatic-brain-injury

My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Per the latest research, high fructose corn syrup interferes with brain function. This is but another item on the long lists of things that make high fructose corn syrup bad for you. This is why I don’t have soda at home, and don’t let you drink soda often. I want you to stay away from the stuff even if I’m not there.

All my love, always,
Dad

2 year and 265 days. Losses.

Karma: every act done, no matter how insignificant, will eventually return to the doer with equal impact. Good will be returned with good; evil with evil.

My dearest Shosh and Jailalai:

It has been extremely difficult.  It appears I’m on track to shortly lose our home in OG.  In total, that makes two homes, two cars, and two sons your mother has taken from me because she is lazy, selfish, and stupid.

She’s lazy because the marriage fell apart when, after supporting her as a stay at home mom for years (her choice), I lost my job as a result of blowing the whistle against the 9th largest health insurance company in the U.S. for defrauding the sick and dying out of their paid for health insurance benefits.  She hated working and made it very clear.  Daily.  Soon, she went around the house, pointing to this and that, and saying they are hers because she paid for them by working, ignoring the fact that I was the sole breadwinner from 2001 (when she quit working to have you, Shosh) until 2007.  She also conveniently forgot that all those years when I worked, she’d frequently suggested that I stay home to take care of you and let her work because it was harder to be a homemaker.  (These conversations usually went nowhere because my earning were two to three times hers, and we could not survive on her salary.)  Yet, when I lost my job and stayed home to take care of BOTH you and Jaialai, she made my life hell and made me feel like crap for being unable to support my family.  It was not for lacking of trying that I couldn’t find a job after becoming a whistle blower, no one wanted to hire someone who is willing to blow the whistle on them, see, e.g., http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/money/companies/management/2004-07-29-whistle-blower-main_x.htm.  (To be clear, in my years in practice and of the numerous companies I’ve helped, not one operated without violating some laws or other.  However, the difference was that all those other companies tried to bring themselves into compliance with the law.  It was only the Enron of Healthcare that thumbed its nose at the law while cheating sick and dying member of millions.  That was not okay morally or professionally.)

She’s selfish because she is only thinking of her when she acts.  Remember all those times when you boys wanted to go to the park right next to the house on 55th Ave., and she refused to take you because she wanted to sit and watch TV?  Was that for your benefit or for hers?  Was it for your benefits that she sold your childhood home on 55th? that she sold the Acura and the other care I bought to safely transport you? that I’m not losing your home with me?

She’s stupid because karma will catch up to her.  Everything is documented.  Despite her numerous emails, saying “It’s not about the money,” it became very clear that it is ALL about the money.  Despite my walking away from the first home with nothing but my clothes and leaving $98,000 in the joint bank account, it wasn’t enough for her.  She wanted to take the new home, you boys, and everything I have of value to me.  And my crime?  Losing my job because I could not stomach the illegal conducts of a crooked health insurance company that preyed on the sick and dying.

I’m sorry.  She is your mother, but her conducts are less than becoming.  Remember, judge people by their conducts, not by their words.

All my love, always,

Dad

2 years and 264 days. Be a biophile.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/energy-environment/wp/2015/09/30/e-o-wilson-explains-why-experiencing-nature-is-good-for-the-human-mind/?tid=hybrid_experimentrandom_1_na

My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Love life. Be passionate about life, nature, and all living things.

During our brief time together, I hope I helped instilled that love within you. Recall our numerous trips to the Oregon Zoo? Newport Aquarium? Seaside Aquarium? Seattle Aquarium? Honolulu Aquarium? (Even though we were in Honolulu for a few weeks, I bought an annual pass because you guys wanted to visit the aquarium daily, and we wanted to support the institution.) Recall our annual Fathers and Sons camping trips in the woods with our friends? Recall our efforts during our last summer together to visit all nearby parks that had water features?

During your weeks with me, we eschewed electronic media in favor of experiencing real life. I hope you continue to do so…although I suspect that is not the case, and that your mother has reverted to letting television and electronic games supervise you. Try your best to return to nature.

All my love, always,
Dad

2 years and 262 days. Be the ant, and stick to the basics.

“There’s an old Finnish saying,” Holappa said. “Those things you learn without joy you will forget easily.” http://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2015/10/the-joyful-illiterate-kindergartners-of-finland/408325/

“Some people are born ants—industrious and in possession of great willpower—while others are grasshoppers, living only for today.” http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2015/10/retirement-savings-dont-blame-people/408283/

My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Be the ant. Effort and willpower are necessary conditions for success in life, not just in retirement. On the other hand, laziness and a weak mind are recipes for lifelong failure.

Willpower is important because even if you work hard, you will encounter failure from time to time. Sometimes you will fail through no fault of your own but due to circumstances beyond your control. Those who lack the willpower to stand back up and try again or try different will be doomed to remain failures. Those who work at it will eventually find success. See article about the number of times books submitted by now-famous authors were rejected and some of the unhelpful comments they received: https://schulerbooks.wordpress.com/2009/05/11/recent-article-30-famous-authors-whose-works-were-rejected-repeatedly-and-sometimes-rudely-by-publishers/.

Don’t forget to have fun!

All my love, always,
Dad

2 years and 262 days. Be smart.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonkblog/wp/2015/10/01/the-hidden-inequality-of-who-dies-in-car-crashes/

My dearest Shush and Jaialai:

This is why I bought the cars I did – to protect you boys,  my most valuable treasures. Who took those cars from us and sold them away to feed her greed? It’s shameful.

Never forget. You can choose to forgive, but never forget. People are creatures of habit (how they think, how they act,  etc.). The best predictor of a person’s future course of action is his/her past pattern of behavior. So, don’t forget.

All my love, always,

Dad