[A] 2005 study by the London School of Economics found that more affluent children are more likely to have their own computers, and tend to navigate further and more skillfully around the internet. They also spend more time on the web, have better online skills — and are well-versed at evading parental monitoring.
The study of 1,297 children also found that while 57 per cent of the over-nines had seen porn online, only 16 per cent of parents knew. One can only imagine how much higher the number is today, six years later.
In fact, it’s become so widespread that it’s changing our children’s view of what sex is — and what is most worrying is that we don’t even realise it’s happening….
Straight consensual intercourse is almost non-existent because it is considered boring.
Instead, the first glimpse of sex your child is ever likely to see may well be sickening images where women are degraded in the most disturbing ways.
Because we rarely talk about porn with our children, they don’t know it’s fiction and naturally assume it’s what grown-ups actually do.
The sex our daughters hear so much about — and feel so much pressure to take part in — is shown as a brutal sport that men do to women. There’s no kissing, no expressions of love or moments of tenderness.
For children, who are born with an inbuilt sense of right and wrong, these images can be deeply disorientating.
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Children as young as 8 and 9 are coming across sexually explicit material on the Internet and in other media. Although research is just beginning to assess the potential damage, there is reason to believe that early exposure to sexual content may have the following undesirable effects:
Early Sex. Research has long established that teens who watch movies or listen to music that glamorizes drinking, drug use or violence tend to engage in those behaviors themselves. A 2012 study shows that movies influence teens’ sexual attitudes and behaviors as well. The study, published in Psychological Science, found that the more teens were exposed to sexual content in movies, the earlier they started having sex and the likelier they were to have casual, unprotected sex.
In another study, boys who were exposed to sexually explicit media were three times more likely to engage in oral sex and intercourse two years after exposure than non-exposed boys. Young girls exposed to sexual content in the media were twice as likely to engage in oral sex and one and a half times more likely to have intercourse. Research also shows that teens who listened to music with degrading sexual references were more likely to have sex than those who had less exposure.
Why are teens more likely to have sex after being exposed to sexual content in the media? Just as we read specific books and show educational movies to our children in hopes that they learn lessons from the characters, the media provides a type of sex education to young people. Media messages normalize early sexual experimentation and portray sex as casual, unprotected and consequence-free, encouraging sexual activity long before children are emotionally, socially or intellectually ready.
High-Risk Sex. The earlier a child is exposed to sexual content and begins having sex, the likelier they are to engage in high-risk sex. Research shows that children who have sex by age 13 are more likely to have multiple sexual partners, engage in frequent intercourse, have unprotected sex and use drugs or alcohol before sex. In a study by researcher Dr. Jennings Bryant, more than 66 percent of boys and 40 percent of girls reported wanting to try some of the sexual behaviors they saw in the media (and by high school, many had done so), which increases the risk of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.
Sex, Love and Relationship Addictions. Not every child who is exposed to sexual content will struggle with a mental health disorder, but research shows that early exposure to pornography is a risk factor for sex addictions and other intimacy disorders. In one study of 932 sex addicts, 90 percent of men and 77 percent of women reported that pornography was a factor in their addiction. With the widespread availability of explicit material on the Internet, these problems are becoming more prevalent and are surfacing at younger ages.
Sexual Violence. According to some studies, early exposure (by age 14) to pornography and other explicit material may increase the risk of a child becoming a victim of sexual violence or acting out sexually against another child. For some people, habitual use of pornography may prompt a desire for more violent or deviant material, including depictions of rape, torture or humiliation. If people seek to act out what they see, they may be more likely to commit sexual assault, rape or child molestation.
My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:
Ok, let’s take this issue head on and deal with it. Not being there and knowing how your mom is hands-off when it comes to your upbringing, I can only assume that you’ve seen porn on the internet and elsewhere. (In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if B, your older but low-minded cousin who used to steal your toys, has even purposefully introduced to you porn.)
You know that X-rated and R-rated movies are restricted to people of certain age (18 and 16, respectively). Thus, you know that it’s wrong to secretly look for and look at pornographic images and videos when adults are not around. If you know it’s wrong, don’t do it. It’s that simple. Have self control.
The reason porn is restrict to older individuals is because young kids are not mentally prepared to process the images they see. Porn is like fast food. It’s stimulates the senses, but is mostly unhealthy and bad for you.
For example, these days, most porn include anal sex as if it’s normal. It is not. In fact, the sphincter muscle — which prevents poop from dripping out of you when you are not pooping — can get over-stretched by anal sex and, over time, stop being able to clinch to stop poop from falling out whenever. Yes, if this happens, the person will end up having to wear diaper to not shit her pants.
If you love or even care about the girl, would you want this to happen to her? Think about it.
And this is the least of the problems. For example, the anus and intestine are not meant for sex; thus, they could tear during sex. Yes, you could have cuts inside your butt. Worse, the wall of the cavity inside your anus could come out and protrude outside of the anus. Yes, in essence, the inside of your butt could come out. Pleasant, eh? Worst yet, there have been cases where the thin muscle that separates the vagina from the intestine gets torn. Yes, in those cases, poop comes out of the vagina when the person goes to the bathroom. It’s not a pleasant image, is it? Now imagine all the germs and bacteria from one’s feces infecting the womb where babies come from. No, it’s not good. Would you want the possibility of that happening to someone you love or care about?
For now, I know you’re curious, but I ask that you refrain from watching porn and engaging in premarital sex. One day, when you are old enough, you will find love that is amazing. In that loving relationship, the sex will also be amazing because it would be about the expression of love for someone you care deeply about. It’s worth the wait, my sons.
All my love, always,