4 years, 9 months, and 21 days. Beware: you are being manipulated.








To give an example, if I ask you, “How wrong is it to falsify information on your CV in order to get a better job?” you might think that you just go through a rational process, and think of the reasons why this is wrong, or perhaps why it’s not so bad. But we found that when you put people in certain emotional states, for example, if you have them sit at a table that happens to be very sticky, dirty, and disgusting, then people make different decisions. If you sit at a disgusting table, or let’s say you’re smelling a disgusting smell in the room, then you’re more likely to say that falsifying your CV in order to get a better job is really wrong compared to somebody who sits at a clean table, or somebody who doesn’t have a nasty smell around them.

Similarly we find that when you give people a chance to feel very clean and pure, they decide that something like falsifying their CV is not so bad, it’s proper behavior, or it’s okay, it’s clean. It seems like however people happen to be feeling at the moment colors their judgments about some even very fundamental decisions of whether it is right or wrong to do something. It’s quite surprising that even though we like to think there are good reasons for our decisions, often times there are all these random things that just happen in our lives, and that’s how we decide, for example, what is moral, and what is immoral.




My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

At sales schools years ago, when Southwestern sent us college students to Nashville for sales training, we were taught how to ask questions that would more likely than not push the respondent to give the answers we wanted.  “Your next door neighbors, the Smiths (a beautiful family), just bought a set of study guides for their children.  You’d want to purchase a set for your kids also, wouldn’t you?” gets you better results than “Would you like to buy a set of these study guides?”  In other words, we were taught to manipulate people.

We were far from unique.  You are being manipulated everyday by ads, by strangers, by friends, by family, by almost everyone.  Beware.

As evident from the above citations on how being in a clean or disgusting environment affects people’s sense of right and wrong.  Who’d thunk it?!!!  But, it’s there.  We could house workers in clean offices with fresh smelling air being pumped in and have them engage in questionable sales tactics all day.  Who is to say Enron traders who laughed about ripping off old grannies weren’t similarly manipulated?  https://www.cbsnews.com/news/enron-traders-caught-on-tape/.  (I am not suggesting those traders were not to be blamed, but that Enron created an environment which heightened the individuals’ unethical leanings.)

So, how can you defend yourself against this insidious manipulation?  Be aware of the possibility.  Think.  Analyze.  Question assumptions.  Use your slow thinking process instead of fast thinking/automated/knee jerk reactions.  See Daniel Kahneman’s Thinking, Fast and Slow.  See also:

Be you, my sons. Be the best you possible.  Your time and your life are your own.  Don’t allow others to impose their will on you and trick you into buying things, wearing clothes, saying things, etc., that are not you.

Go for walks.  It’s a good way to slow things down and think.  It’s good for your cognitive and physical health.  And, it will help you live longer.  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cravings/201710/the-easiest-exercise-longer-life.

All my love, always,


P.S., I have woken up the past two days extremely sad.  It makes me worry about you boys.  I hope you are ok.




4 years, 9 months, and 18 days. Don’t embrace the suck!





If you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them.

The Internship


My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Truer words have rarely been uttered, my sons.  You see it daily — people making excuses for themselves and their bad behaviors.

If it happens to you, just walk away.  Don’t bother to argue with them.  Let them keep their flaws and their limitations.  They’ll never change and become better if they keep making excuses for themselves.  Walk away.  There are better people out there to befriend.

Don’t embrace the suck… not in you, not in anyone else.  If it sucks, why would you want to keep it or be around it?  If it’s not working, let it go.

Remember my note the other day about kaizen — continuous incremental improvement?  Embrace that!  Just work on being better today than you were yesterday.  If you pigged out on ice cream yesterday and felt sick from over eating, take one bite fewer today.  That’s not hard, right?  If you didn’t exercise at all yesterday, do one push up today.  Just one.  Tomorrow, try two.  You aren’t too busy for one push up, are you?



Don’t embrace the suck, my sons.  Spend your time wisely.  Be the person you want to be, and can be.

All my love, always,


4 years, 9 months, and 14 days. Know your limitations.




My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Life demands much of us, doesn’t it?  We are constantly bombarded by demands from all sides: “Do your homework,” says the teacher; “You need more sleep as teenagers!” says your pediatrician; “You gotta try this new game,” says the “Cool” kids; “Facebook is so yesterday — do Instagram,” says a friend; “Get off social media,” says the dad; etc.

How do you manage?  Who should you listen to?  Who can you trust?

That, my sons, is a challenge you’ll face for the rest of your life.  There will always be talking heads telling you what to do, what to buy, what to wear, what to say, what to eat, etc.

But, always remember, you are in charge of you — and no one else.  That means you are not in charge of anyone else, and that no one else is in charge of you!

As we say, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.”  You choose what you do and what you don’t do.  Take responsibility for your choices.  Don’t blame anyone else.  Losers spend often spend their entire lives blaming others for their mistakes.  Don’t be like them.

So, how do you make the right choices in life?  Well, life offers few certainty, so (1) you must make the (2) best decision (3) based on (4) the best information (5) you have at the time.

As you can see, there are a number of elements to this decision-making process. Let’s go through them one by one.

First and foremost, YOU must decided.  Don’t let others decide for you.  If you do, then the fault resides with YOU because YOU abdicated your personal responsibility — you chose to let someone else decide your fate.

Second, you must make the best decision possible.  Sometimes, flipping a coin may be the best choice when you are faced with two equally attractive or unattractive options and indecision is hurting you.  Choose and move on.  The moment of absolute certain will never (or rarely) arrive.  But, use this method extremely sparingly.

Think critically about your choices:

  • What data do you have?
  • What data don’t you have?
  • What data can be obtained and at what cost (in terms of time and expenses)?
  • What data are simply unavailable?
  • What is it that you don’t know about that could or would affect your decision-making process?

Think critically, methodically, and deliberately.  Shosh, when you were 3 or 4 years old, my staff were so impressed when you answered their questions in an organized and orderly fashion.  For example, you’d say, “Well, there are three reasons why I like X.  First, ….”  Keep doing that.

When you make your decision, make sure it is BASED on sound reasons.  Don’t make knee-jerk reactions.  Don’t make rash decisions because someone else is yanking your chains — emotionally, physically, or otherwise.

Stop. Think.  Assess.  Decide.

Make sure your analysis is based on the BEST information available.  Use reliable and reputable sources to obtain your data.  Don’t rely on hearsay, fly-by-night bloggers, charlatans, talking heads, etc.  Again, there is no guarantee that even the most reputable of sources won’t make mistakes, but life is a game of chance and all you can do it maximize your chances of getting the  right information on which to base your decisions.

Lastly, never let the perfect be the enemy of the good.  Perfection is rarely achieved and rarely possible.  Go with the best you have at the time.  Now, since time is obviously an important factor, make sure you give yourselves sufficient time to conduct your research, make your analyses, and decide.  Don’t wait until the last minute, then flip a coin because you have no data on which to make your decision and, as a result, all the options appear the same to you.

Obviously, this is an involved process and you cannot engage in such a process for every decision in life.  For less critical decisions, rely on less demanding processes.  Where possible, use reputable and trustworthy substitutes for parts of your data-collection and analyses.  For example, if I want to buy a new laptop, I read reviews by PC Magazine, ZDNet, Gizmodo, etc.  They have built a reputation as experts; thus, it would not be unreasonable to rely on their expert opinions as part of my analysis.

Now, this is where it can become tricky.  Not all “experts” are the “experts” they claim to be.  Below is a good example.

Revenge of the Lizard Brain

[B]ack in the ‘60s, ..: Paul MacLean [proffered the now] infamous “Triune Brain” theory, whose basic idea is that every human brain contains three independent competing minds – the reptile, the early mammal, and the modern primate….

Problem is, MacLean’s pet hypothesis doesn’t hold up under scrutiny….

How is it, then, that modern authors as educated as Seth Godin and Rick Hanson (among others) are writing entire essays that present “the lizard brain” as well-documented scientific fact? How does Godin keep a straight face onstage [giving a TED talk] as he tells us that “the lizard is a physical part of your brain” and that “the reason we call wild animals ‘wild’ is because they have lizard brains”?

It’s because the idea makes a weird kind of intuitive sense. We’re bundles of instincts and inhibitions and desires that don’t fit neatly together. It’d be comforting, in a way, if we could pin those conflicts on little lizard brains – just name those ancient demons and drive ‘em out, like we did in simpler times.

Whether we like it or not, though, the lizard is simply us. Every habit and hangup, every dread and desire in our minds is dependent on neural pathways that were once laid down by our personal experiences. Like every other organism on earth, we carry the history of a long, successful lineage in our genetic and biological makeup. The question of what to do with those resources, though, isn’t predetermined by the past. It’s up to you.


See, also, https://www.ted.com/speakers/seth_godin; http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2010/01/quieting-the-lizard-brain.html; and, http://www.eruptingmind.com/beating-the-reptilian-brain/.

How do we know?  By trial and error.  By the use of your best judgement.  By staying current regarding new research findings.  By doing the best you can with the limited amount of time and resources you have available.

But, also, remember your own limitations, biases, etc.  For example,

Study: Teens’ View of Fairness Shifts as Brain Develops

When it comes to the concept of fairness, teenagers’ ability to consider the intentions of others appears to be linked to structural changes in the brain, according to a study led by Assistant Professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences Luke Chang.

The research found that cortical thinning of specific areas of the brain from youth into young adulthood corresponded to the transition from an emphasis on equality in all transitions to a more complex consideration of the intentions of others in exchanges. This developmental change in the social brain continued through late adolescence, the researchers said.

“We were surprised that this shift in preference for considering others’ intentions occurred so late in development,” Chang says. “This finding has potential implications regarding how much autonomy this age group should be given when making important social and ethical decisions, such as purchasing weapons, going to war, and serving on juries.”


You are in your teens.  Your brain continues to develop and change.  Certain limitations result from this process.  Acknowledge it.  Incorporate it into your analysis.  For example, it may necessitate you seeking additional counsel of a trusted source to counteract a known weakness.  There is no shame in that.

At the end of the day, own your decisions and learn from your mistakes.  Don’t let hard choices hold you back from doing what you must to achieve your dreams, to do the right thing, etc.

Winners do.  Losers whine and blame others.

Live well, and be happy, my sons.

All my love, always,


P.S., below is a poem I like which touches on this issue of limited time to make our moves in life.

Andrew Marvell. 1621–1678
357. To His Coy Mistress
HAD we but world enough, and time,
This coyness, Lady, were no crime
We would sit down and think which way
To walk and pass our long love’s day.
Thou by the Indian Ganges’ side          5
Shouldst rubies find: I by the tide
Of Humber would complain. I would
Love you ten years before the Flood,
And you should, if you please, refuse
Till the conversion of the Jews.   10
My vegetable love should grow
Vaster than empires, and more slow;
An hundred years should go to praise
Thine eyes and on thy forehead gaze;
Two hundred to adore each breast,   15
But thirty thousand to the rest;
An age at least to every part,
And the last age should show your heart.
For, Lady, you deserve this state,
Nor would I love at lower rate.   20
  But at my back I always hear
Time’s wingèd chariot hurrying near;
And yonder all before us lie
Deserts of vast eternity.
Thy beauty shall no more be found,   25
Nor, in thy marble vault, shall sound
My echoing song: then worms shall try
That long preserved virginity,
And your quaint honour turn to dust,
And into ashes all my lust:   30
The grave ‘s a fine and private place,
But none, I think, do there embrace.
  Now therefore, while the youthful hue
Sits on thy skin like morning dew,
And while thy willing soul transpires   35
At every pore with instant fires,
Now let us sport us while we may,
And now, like amorous birds of prey,
Rather at once our time devour
Than languish in his slow-chapt power.   40
Let us roll all our strength and all
Our sweetness up into one ball,
And tear our pleasures with rough strife
Thorough the iron gates of life:
Thus, though we cannot make our sun   45
Stand still, yet we will make him run.

4 years, 9 months, and 13 days. Your presence is more important than your empty praises. Be present.





Presence, Not Praise: How To Cultivate a Healthy Relationship with Achievement

Why instilling admiration for hard work rather than raw talent is the key to fostering a well-adjusted mind.

In The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves (public library), psychoanalyst and University College London professor Stephen Grosz builds on more than 50,000 hours of conversation from his quarter-century experience as a practicing psychoanalyst to explore the machinery of our inner life, with insights that are invariably profound and often provocative — for instance, a section titled “How praise can cause a loss of confidence,” in which Grosz writes:

Nowadays, we lavish praise on our children. Praise, self-confidence and academic performance, it is commonly believed, rise and fall together. But current research suggests otherwise — over the past decade, a number of studies on self-esteem have come to the conclusion that praising a child as ‘clever’ may not help her at school. In fact, it might cause her to under-perform. Often a child will react to praise by quitting — why make a new drawing if you have already made ‘the best’? Or a child may simply repeat the same work — why draw something new, or in a new way, if the old way always gets applause?

Grosz cites psychologists Carol Dweck and Claudia Mueller’s famous 1998 study, which divided 128 children ages 10 and 11 into two groups. All were asked to solve mathematical problems, but one group were praised for their intellect (“You did really well, you’re so clever.”) while the other for their effort (“You did really well, you must have tried really hard.”) The kids were then given more complex problems, which those previously praised for their hard work approached with dramatically greater resilience and willingness to try different approaches whenever they reached a dead end. By contrast, those who had been praised for their cleverness were much more anxious about failure, stuck with tasks they had already mastered, and dwindled in tenacity in the face of new problems….

Rather than utilizing the familiar mechanisms of reward and punishment, Grosz observed, Charlotte’s method relied on keen attentiveness to “what a child did and how that child did it.” He recounts:

I once watched Charlotte with a four-year-old boy, who was drawing. When he stopped and looked up at her — perhaps expecting praise — she smiled and said, ‘There is a lot of blue in your picture.’ He replied, ‘It’s the pond near my grandmother’s house — there is a bridge.’ He picked up a brown crayon, and said, ‘I’ll show you.’ Unhurried, she talked to the child, but more importantly she observed, she listened. She was present.

Presence, he argues, helps build the child’s confidence by way of indicating he is worthy of the observer’s thoughts and attention — its absence, on the other hand, divorces in the child the journey from the destination by instilling a sense that the activity itself is worthless unless it’s a means to obtaining praise.


My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Presence is such a simple concept, but so hard to put into practice, isn’t it?  How many times in class do you say “Present!” when your name is called during roll call, but find your mind being anywhere but in the present moment?  You are physically there, but your mind is elsewhere.

For a long time, I was guilty of such behavior.  My greatest and deepest regret, Shosh, is that I wasn’t always present when you used to tell me these elaborate tales during your early years.  Yes, I made a promise to always be there for dinner and to be at every doctor’s appointment, and I kept that promise.  However, being physically present is not the same as being fully, intellectually, spiritually, and emotionally present.  I was wrong to deny you the latter.  As I sat with you, often still in my suit and tie, I nodded, grunted, and smiled at all the right moments, but my mind was often mired in my work and the challenges burdening my clients.  In short, I put their needs ahead of your and failed to communicate to you how important and critical you are to me.  Eventually, you stopped telling stories.  That absence now pains me more than you can ever imagine, Shosh.  I carry that with me everyday and swear never to do that to another person who is important to me again.

Time is the most precious of commodity.  Once the moment is gone, it is gone forever.  Think about that for a moment.

I was a fool because I will never get back those moments of your youthful and curious mind, of your creative stories, of your precious self that is imbued in each of your tales.  Yes, my work was important, the problems facing my clients were critical, and the firms paid me well to solve the problems facing our clients; however, neither the firms nor the clients were ever more important than you boys.  I worked to support and raise you.  I sacrificed sleep, time with family, exercise, etc., in order to establish myself professionally in order to support you guys.  I was a fool and lost sight of what was dearest to me.  The means became more important than the ends.

Don’t be like me!  Learn from my mistake.  Be present with each other.  Be present with those you love.

Today, I would give anything to have a single one of those moments back…

All my love, always,




4 years, 9 months, and 12 days. Limit your use of social media. It’s a tool, not a way of life. Get off it.





Everybody is exhausted: Stress and social media are taking their toll

“Social media can run the gamut from being fabulously uplifting to being totally depressing and exhausting,” says Bratt, who is also the director of trauma and resilience studies at the Livingston-based Academy of Clinical and Applied Psychoanalysis. “And this applies to all ages.”

Bratt works with young adults who check their social media constantly — at all hours of the day and night — and they all complain about being tired.

My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Remember how I used to tell you that you must limit screen time to two hours per day maximum?  There are lots of reasons for restricting exposure to mainstream and social media.  Pediatricians tell us it’s bad for children’s eyesight and physical health if they spend too much of their time staring at (small) screens and not getting enough exercise or playtime outdoors in the fresh air and sunshine.  Psychologists tell us it is bad for our mental health, causes unnecessary distress and depression, and contributes to fatigue.

Get off social media.  You’re the boss of you, not some jerks paid to keep you on-line despite the fact that spending too much time on-line is bad for your mental and physical self.  Why would you want to cede control of your mental and physical self to some faceless schmuck paid to do you harm?

(Businesses which pay “stars”, talking heads, and marketers to hawk their wares care only about making money: they don’t care about your health and welfare.  If they could get away with selling you substandard goods or weaken consumer protections in order to make extra money, most would.  In fact, they often pay lobbyists and politicians tens of millions to weaken standards to protect your health and welfare — all the while lying to your face and telling you how much they care about you.

For years, the Environmental Protection Agency has struggled to prevent an ingredient once used in stain-resistant carpets and nonstick pans from contaminating drinking water.

The chemical, perfluorooctanoic acid, or PFOA, has been linked to kidney cancer, birth defects, immune system disorders and other serious health problems.

So scientists and administrators in the E.P.A.’s Office of Water were alarmed in late May when a top Trump administration appointee insisted upon the rewriting of a rule to make it harder to track the health consequences of the chemical, and therefore regulate it.

Live real life.  Get to know your neighbors.  Make real friends with real people, not AI bots on the internet pretending to be people or fake people pretending to be someone they are not.  Read good books.  Enjoy the outdoors.  Invest in yourselves.  Exercise.

Beware of the false promises and falsehood that pervades the internet.  We have long known that anonymity brings out the worst in people.  As a medium, the Internet trades mostly on anonymity.  Although law enforcement and techies have the ability to identify the IP addresses and systems used by specific users, most of us have neither the expertise nor the wherewithal to uncover the identify of the individual posting specific information on the internet.  That anonymity encourages many to lie — to make themselves look good, to hawk wares, etc.

How Fiction Becomes Fact on Social Media

Hours after the Las Vegas massacre, Travis McKinney’s Facebook feed was hit with a scattershot of conspiracy theories. The police were lying. There were multiple shooters in the hotel, not just one. The sheriff was covering for casino owners to preserve their business.

The political rumors sprouted soon after, like digital weeds. The killer was anti-Trump, an “antifa” activist, said some; others made the opposite claim, that he was an alt-right terrorist. The two unsupported narratives ran into the usual stream of chatter, news and selfies.

“This stuff was coming in from all over my network of 300 to 400” friends and followers, said Mr. McKinney, 52, of Suffolk, Va., and some posts were from his inner circle.

But he knew there was only one shooter; a handgun instructor and defense contractor, he had been listening to the police scanner in Las Vegas with an app. “I jumped online and tried to counter some of this nonsense,” he said.

In the coming weeks, executives from Facebook and Twitter will appear before Congressional committees to answer questions about the use of their platforms by Russian hackers and others to spread misinformation and skew elections. During the 2016 presidential campaign, Facebook sold more than $100,000 worth of ads to a Kremlin-linked company, and Google sold more than $4,500 worth to accounts thought to be connected to the Russian government.

Yet the psychology behind social media platforms — the dynamics that make them such powerful vectors of misinformation in the first place — are at least as important, experts say, especially for those who think they’re immune to being duped. For all the suspicions about social media companies’ motives and ethics, it is the interaction of the technology with our common, often subconscious psychological biases that make so many of us vulnerable to misinformation, and this has largely escaped notice.

Now, you may notice that I often cite articles by the New York Times, Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Guardian, Wall Street Journal, etc.  Are those sources immune to falsehood?  No, nothing is.  However, unlike blogs and fly-by-night “news” sources, reputable media sources have systems in place to try to report the news as accurately as possible.  They have editors and staff whose jobs it is to vet the news for accuracy.  The journalists, who often spent years studying journalism in reputable journalism programs, strive to protect the reputation they have worked so hard to create.  Likewise, newspapers like the New York Times have worked hard over decades to win Pulitzer Prizes and other recognition by august bodies: they do not risk such reputation lightly.  These and other indicia by no mean guarantee the veracity of everything these papers publish, but decreases the likelihood that they would publish uncorroborated and odious lies.

Think.  Live.   Enjoy life.  Get off social media.

All my love, always,



4 years, 9 months, and 7 days. Be smart. Think, always. Don’t just react.






My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

In the dark of nights, in the deepest parts of our hears, and in the places where we are often too afraid to dwell, Ms. Jean and I fear that you’ve forgotten us.  Do you still think of us often?  Does your heart ache and the universe collapse when you do?  I pray that you are spared such pain.  Maybe it is a good thing if you’ve forgotten…  If you have, don’t worry.  We have enough love and memory to cover everyone.

Meanwhile, be mindful about how you approach life.  First and foremost, find joy and find peace.  Without those, the travails and vagaries of life will prevail.  The Buddha said, “Life is suffering.”  Remember?  Find balance.

Part of that effort is choosing your battles wisely.  Jaialai, do you remember how you once told your mom that Ms. L’s food tasted better than hers?  She was so angry she smashed the frying pan.  Now, we appreciate the nod of support, but that wasn’t the wisest of moves.  (Yes, you were seven at the time, so it was understandable.)  Since Grandma and I are no longer there to cook for you when you were at your mother’s, she’s all you have in terms of food preparer.  (Your grandmother and I often ended up doing the cooking because your mother never cared enough to learn to cook well — despite her being a housewife during most of our marriage and my working very long hours at top firms.)  Your comments, although it may be accurate and honest feedback, didn’t get you the desired outcome of encouraging your mom to prepare better tasting food, did it?  Shosh resorted to spicy Korean instant noodles more and more as a result.  At our place, cooking and meal time was a family event, remember?  We had fun cooking and eating together, didn’t we?

Pick your battles, boys.  Before you go into battle, know what you are fighting for, what you hope to gain, and what you are willing to lose.  And, most importantly, never, ever, ever allow stupid people to simply goad you into doing battle with them.  That’s stupid for many reasons, including allowing them to choose when and where the fight takes place.  Why would you want to give up those advantages?


Once you have chosen to fight, though, fight with everything you have.  Use your head.  Don’t let others drag you down. Remember, sometimes, you must lose a battle to win the war.  Use whatever gambit is necessary to throw the opponent off his/her game.  I remember sitting around the table once with Mr. T. and a small group of lawyers to strategize for impending battles against multi-billion corporations which were hurting working men and women and violating laws designed to protect people.  We may have been a small group and out-resourced, but we were never out-witted nor out-matched.

Last, but not least, always, live to fight another day.  Preserve your strength.

Pick And Choose Your Battles Quotes. QuotesGram

All my love, always,


4 years, 9 months, and 6 days. Never wrestle with pigs: you’ll both get dirty and the pig likes it.


My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Unfortunately, rude and crass people are part of the fabric of society.  Civilized societies do a better job of educating its citizenry and create a more orderly society as a result.  But, even then, there are fringe elements who celebrate anarchy, chaos, disorder, and filth.

The best you can do is to steer clear of them.  (We live in nice neighborhoods precisely to avoid such elements.)  However, it is not always possible to avoid interacting with them.  When confronted by the likes of such, you have several choices: (1) do nothing — which is ALWAYS a choice; (2) speak up for yourself and teach people how to treat you; or, (3) walk away.  How do you decide which course of action to take?

First, security ALWAYS comes first.  If you endanger yourself or your loved one by challenging the louts, then think twice about doing so.  Remember, such low-lifes usually do not have much to live for; thus, they may choose to take risks which you may prefer not to take (e.g., jail time for assault, or loss of face for being rude and creating a scene in public).  In such situations, it would be best to walk away.

Second, ask yourself what you hope to gain with a given course of action.  Yes, I always tell you to teach people how to treat you.  But, sometimes, it is simply not worth your time to teach that particular person — because you’ll never interact with him/her again, because he/she is so poorly brought up and so crass that no lesson will take and the people will never amount to anything more than a lout, a thug, or a hooligan.  Don’t waste your time and energy.  Walk away.


And, remember, low-lifes comes in all shapes, sizes, and styles.  People often confuse money with class.  They are not the same.  There are many without means, but who are well-mannered and well-bred.  On the other hand, there are many rich and powerful individuals who behave boorishly, and are not better bad monkeys and gorillas which cannot control their own impulses.

You can put lipstick on a pig, but it’s still a pig.

Walk away.

All my love, always,