Do you believe that blood is thicker than water? That your family relationships are more important than friends? Well, think again. Research from Michigan State University suggests that friends may make you happier and healthier than your relatives.
My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:
I apologize for the long absence. It has been busy and I have been exhausted by day’s end. Even though I have neither strength nor mental clarity to write you, my thoughts do not stray far from you. There is a place in my heart where only you can reside. It will never be filled by anyone else.
The days may be long and exhausting, but I am at least slightly happier because I have supportive friends. Don’t ever underestimate the importance of friendship, my sons. Good friends are the spices that add flavor to your life, the winds that lift you to dizzying heights and the safety lines that catches you should you fall, and the mirrors that truthfully reflect back how you are presenting yourself to the world. They will be there with you through thick and thin.
But, beware false friends. They may tell you what you want to hear, but their hearts do not belong to you. They may be fair weather friends, who will only be there with you during the good times to share a laugh. That’s fine, but know that is their true aim and purpose. Don’t be disappointed when they abandon you during difficult times. These are not true friends, but are more like acquaintances.
I find it best to find and surround myself with good people and true friends who inspire me to be better. Such are often hard to find, but they are worth their weight in gold. Treat them with kindness and respect, and care and feeding. Cultivate those friendship and protect them as you would treasure — for that is what they are.
Good and supportive friends bring you as much health and happiness as you do them. On the other hand, bad people are never worthy of the label friends. Stay away from them. They are not the harbinger of joy and good health, but of their opposites. For example, a recent headline states:
Guilty Verdict for Young Woman Who Urged Friend to Kill Himself.
This is a misuse of the much coveted label of friendship. That woman was never a friend. She was anything but a friend. Beware of the likes of her.
All my love, always,