9 years, 2 months, and 27 days. All humans systems are flawed because humans are flawed: rely on yourself and your moral compass.

While many think that the state taking children from parents is a noble gesture to protect the child, all too often, the state removes kids from a bad situation and throws them into a situation akin to a horror film. Many times the children are taken from caring parents, who happened to hit a rough patch in their lives, and thrown into torturous and outright sadistic situations where they end up raped, tortured, and even murdered.

Beth Breen, a former employee of Arizona DCS recently broke her gagging order and went on Northwest Liberty News where she detailed the horrifying treatment suffered by a young girl named Devani at the hands of the state foster system.

According to Breen, she is not supposed to speak about the case because of the gag order, but is anyway because the information is vital and the order unconstitutional.

Breene explained that she was a driver for a 5-year-old girl whose stay in foster care ended with her being permanently disfigured and fighting for her life in ICU because of her bureaucratic ‘protection’ within the system. The child, who is referred to as Jane Doe in a lawsuit, but whose real name is Devani, was taken from her parents because they had substance abuse issues.

Because her mother struggled with addiction, the state took Devani from her. Like mentioned before, they took her from a bad situation and threw her into a nightmare where she was repeatedly raped and tortured.

Breene’s job involved driving Devani from her foster home 90 miles away for a 2-hour supervised visit with her parents each week. Because the round trip was four hours, Breene spent more time with Devani than her parents.

During the interview, Breene states that there were 36 police reports made to the foster home in which Devani lived, but that they were never investigated. The foster parent, David Frodsham — the deputy commander of the Fort Huachuca Army base, a position he held after being kicked out of Afghanistan for deviant sexual behavior — would only be arrested after this monster became so overtly careless that he went to the foster office drunk to collect his check for fostering children.

Arizona: CPS Worker Defies Gag Order – Exposes Violent Child Sex Ring In State Foster System, https://thewashingtonstandard.com/arizona-cps-worker-defies-gag-order-exposes-violent-child-sex-ring-in-state-foster-system/

My most dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

Hope for the best, but ALWAYS prepare for the worst. Be skeptical. Never put your trust in those whose actions are animated by money or who act only because they are paid to do so. Their interests rarely truly align with yours.

The news story above is a good example of the massive failures of numerous public systems supposedly designed to act in our best interests and the best interest of America’s children. First, instead of helping parents in a rough spot and in need of a little help, public servants — whose salaries we pay — take away the children and, for federal dollars, place them with strangers who will take care of those children in exchange for money. Second, a pedophile ring is discovered in the state’s foster care system despite, supposedly, efforts to vet parents and weed out pedophiles, child abusers, etc. Third, despite dozens of police reports about the foster home in which the child was repeatedly raped and tortured, the police — public servants paid to serve and protect us, the taxpayers — could not be bothered to investigate the dangers posed to the child. Fourth, once a CPS worker discovered the danger and great harm inflicted upon the child by a pedophile sanctioned by the state and paid by the state to care for the child, the legal system imposed a gag order to silence her and prevent her from warning other parents of other children who are taken by CPS, a public agency created to protect America’s children and to act in the children’s best interests. Fifth, by speaking out to protect members of the public, the CPS worker put herself at legal risks to violate the legal gag order that required her to remain silent about the pedophile ring in the state’s child welfare system.

This is not the failings of individuals, but a systemic failure of our child welfare system, law enforcement system, legal system, etc. These systems fail because, ultimately, they rest wholly upon human beings who are prone to greed, vanity, insecurity, envy, laziness, etc., and whose actions are rarely animated by what is good for society but what is good for the public servant as an individual, i.e., what will earn him/her more in bonuses or salaries, what will get him/her promoted, what will get him/her reelected, etc. A cursory Google search of books, research and projects relating America’s child welfare system, law enforcement system, and criminal justice system will yield items like the book by Gerry Spence entitled “Police State: How America’s Cops Get Away with Murder”, the book by Dorothy Roberts entitled “Shattered Bonds: The Color of Child Welfare”, and the University of Michigan Law School’s National Registry of Exonerations. See examples of book quotes below.

The idea for this book percolated during the time I served as dean of the School of Social Policy & Practice at the University of Pennsylvania….

If the nation had deliberately designed a system that would frustrate the professionals who staff it, anger the public who finance it, and abandon the children who depend on it, it could not have done a better job than the present child welfare system.  National Commission on Children, 1991

A quarter-century has passed since the U.S. National Commission on Children made this damning assessment of the child welfare system in the United States.  While there have been some incremental changes in individual child welfare systems and new federal and state legislation, the current status of the child welfare systems are not substantially better than it was in 1991.  More than half of the states operate child welfare systems under a court order resulting from a class action lawsuit….

[S]ignificant improvements to the child protective service system still elude us….  [K]ey components of the child welfare system remain fundamentally flawed and broken.

Richard J. Gelles, Out of Harm’s Way: Creating an Effective Child Welfare System (Oxford University Press 2017)

Black children make up nearly half of the foster care population, although they constitute less than one-fifth of the nation’s children. In Chicago, 95 percent of the children in foster care are Black [when the Black population in the city is less than 33 percent]. Once removed from their homes, Black children remain in foster care longer, are moved more often, receive fewer services, and are less likely to be either returned home or adopted than other children….

The fact that the system supposedly designed to protect children remains one of the most segregated institution in the country should arouse our suspicion.

In 1972, Children of the Storm: Black Children and American Child Welfare, by Andrew Billingsley and Jeanne M. Giovannoni, traced the history of the government’s discriminatory treatment of African American children. Three decades later, racial disparities in the child welfare system have only become worse.

Dorothy Roberts, JD, Shattered Bonds: the Color of Child Welfare (Basic Civitas Books 2002)

If we know these systems are fundamentally flawed, we would be fools to blindly swallow whole whatever shit they sell. We must be skeptical.

As Teacher M. had taught you long ago, you are only the boss of you. This means, among other things, you can only be certain of your actions and your motives. You have no control over the actions and motives of others. Beware evil dressed in the garb of righteousness and justice.

Be disciplined. Think critically for yourselves. Do not be swayed by pretty words or garbs: judge others by their deeds and actions. Do your best to live right no matter what others do or say. Do you. Be you.

All my love, always and forever,

Dad

9 years, 2 months, and 25 days. Get perspective.

“When I was eleven years old, my father decided he needed a new wall in front of his shop…. Every day for nearly a year, my brother and I would go to my father’s shop after school to work on that wall. We did everything ourselves…. Every day, we had to be there, mixing concrete, carrying buckets, laying bricks. It didn’t matter if it was raining, if it was hot as hell, if I was mad, if I was sad, if I was sick, if I had a test the next day — there were no excuses….

One day, Harry and I were in a particularly stank mood. We were dragging our feet and grumbling, “impossible this” and “ridiculous that.”

Daddio overheard us, threw down his tools, and marched over to where we were yapping. He snatched a brick out of my hand and held it up in front of us.

“Stop thinking about the damn wall!” he said. “There is no wall. There are only bricks. Your job is to lay this brick perfectly. Then move on to the next brick. Then lay that brick perfectly. Then the next one. Don’t be worrying about no wall. Your only concern is one brick….”

The days dragged on, and as much as I hated to admit it, I started to see what he was talking about. When I focused on the wall, the job felt impossible. Never-ending. But when I focused on one brick, everything got easy — I knew I could lay one damn brick well…

As the weeks passed, the bricks mounted, and the hole got just a little bit smaller. I started to see that the difference between a task that feels impossible and a task that feels doable is merely a matter of perspective.

Will Smith, and Mark Manson, Will, Penguin Press, New York, 2021, “The Wall”.

‘I Gave Birth To Twins, 8 Weeks Later We Made a Heartbreaking Discovery’

https://www.newsweek.com/i-had-twins-heartbreaking-discovery-weeks-later-1692589

The horrors of Putin’s invasion of Ukraine are increasingly coming to light

https://edition.cnn.com/2022/04/03/europe/ukraine-bucha-horrors/index.html

My most dearest Shosh and Jaialai:

It must be extremely tough for you. I know because I am going through the same experience as you. But get a hold of yourself and stop feeling sorry for yourself. The world can be an ugly place, full of injustices, unfairness, pain, and suffering. Bad things happen. Often times, the horrors of the world are visited upon people regardless of whether they deserve it or not, e.g., a child is born with congenital birth defect; people who were living normal lives one day become victims of war, rape and pillage the next through no fault of their own; and, people lose their homes and livelihood because of a once-in-a-century flood that is becoming more frequent.

You are born healthy. You are given intelligence. You have a roof over your head and food in your belly. You have opportunities to get a good education, earn money, and help others. Millions of others don’t have those privileges. Your job is to do the best you can under the circumstances with the talents you are given and to strive to be the best person possible.

When I say I try to live right in earlier posts, I should be more concrete and explain that I am really guided by two things. First, I believe we must use our God-given talents to do good in the world or we must answer for it when we meet our Maker. Jesus told several parables about this. Second, we must answer God’s call to help others even when it is not comfortable or convenient for us to do so. That’s our job in this life.

I have tried my best to live right by using my public policy and legal skills to help the homeless, the refugees, the poor, the elderly, the infirmed, and the marginalized whenever I am needed. This has made all the difference in the world by helping me maintain an appropriate perspective. Yes, my life may suck at any given moment, but there are those whose burden are much greater than I and who carry on with grace, humor, and humility.

I hope you too will make time to volunteer and help others. I hope that the endeavor will also help you put our horrid and unjust situation into perspective.

Think critically. Work hard. Live right. Be kind to others since you know not the cross they must bear. Help others, but do nothing to make their situation worse if you cannot help. Gain perspective. I will find make my way back to you by exposing the evil of those who bore false witness against us.

All my love, always and forever,

Dad

P.S., I leave you with the Serenity Prayer.