True love is selfless. It is prepared to sacrifice. — Sadhu Vaswani
There is no decision that we can make that doesn’t come with some sort of balance or sacrifice. — Simon Sinek
My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:
This is an issue near and dear to my heart. John Stuart Mill states it most eloquently. For life to have meaning, there must be something greater than ourselves, something worth the sacrifice — be it the love of your child, the protection of the environment for future generations, or even something as simple as the continued enjoyment of your favorite dessert.
What do I mean? Let’s say your favorite dessert are blueberries and jolly ranchers — yes, Jaialai, you know I’m talking about you. If you ate those things all day, everyday, how long do you think it would be before you got sick of blueberries and jolly ranchers? Very quickly. So, in order to continue to enjoy your favorite desserts, you choose to eat is sparingly. In a way, it’s a sacrifice you make for yourself, for your future and continued enjoyment of something you love.
But, this type of sacrifice is easy. It is the easiest of sacrifices because the costs to you are minimal, and the consequences to you and others are insignificant.
Let’s look at something that may be worthy of your sacrifice and that has graver consequences: the convenience of bottled water and the adverse consequences those plastic bottles present to the environment. How often do you buy bottled water and drink from those bottles instead of drinking tap water? Why? Why don’t you drink tap water? Did you know that our city draws water from the pristine Bull Run Watershed, which provides water of higher quality (as tested) than those found in many water bottles?
I understand water bottles are convenient. But, what is the cost of that convenience — and I don’t mean just the price of bottled water? What is the cost to the environment? Plastic bottles are not biodegradable. They take up space in our landfills, rivers, and oceans.
Around eight million tons of plastic enter the marine environment each year, and the figure is set to rise. The Ellen Macarthur Foundation
estimates that 311 million tons of plastic were produced in 2014, which will double within 20 years, and projects that there will be more plastic than fish in the oceans by 2050.
2050 is within your lifetime. We love going to beach and enjoying the ocean, you and I. Imagine going to the beach one day only to find the water filled with garbage and plastic. How disappointed would that be?
That future awaits you. Do nothing, and you assure the certainty of that outcome.
However, you can do something today to change the course of that future. Be vigilant about the use of plastic bottles, bags, etc.
Yes, as Teacher Mary used to say, Shosh, you have control over only your body. But, let change start with you. Then, recruit your friends. If they recruited their friends and family members, then soon, the effects of your combined sacrifices can lead to real results. All politics is local. Start there.
Now, let’s talk about the greatest sacrifice that could be asked of any one of us: the sacrifice of our life and our happiness for the safety and happiness of our loved ones. That was what I was called to do. I had to leave in order for you to be safe.
As you now know, racist CPS officials collaborated with a known pedophile (who is white) to falsely accuse me (an Asian) of child abuse. They revealed their racial bias by taking as the first pieces of “evidence” of child abuse the two public library books sitting on our dinning room table about how to raise children the Asian way
: Battle Hymns of the Tiger Mother
, by Amy Chua, a Chinese-American Professor of Law at Yale Law School, http://amychua.com/about-amy/
; and, Top of the Class: How Asian Parents Raise High Achievers — and How You Can Too,
by Dr. Soo Kim Abboud, a Korean-American surgeon and clinical assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania medical school, and Jane Kim, a Korean-American lawyer, http://www.nytimes.com/2005/10/16/fashion/sundaystyles/item-sisters-think-parents-did-ok.html?_r=0. They made their racist motives evident by leaving behind two other public library books that were also sitting on the same dinning room table — books about how to raise children the Caucasian way
: Bringing Up Bebe
, by Pamela Druckerman, a Caucasian former Wall Street Journal
; and, Ready for Preschool
, by Nancy Hertzog, Ph.D., a Caucasian Professor at the University of Washington College of Education, https://education.uw.edu/people/faculty/nhertzog
The pedophile who CPS collaborated with to frame me, was reported by his own adult daughters, who refused to let him anywhere near his own grandchildren. According to CPS’s own records, one daughter (who called CPS) “was deeply concerned (as her voice trembled with apparent fear) that a child might be placed in her father’s care.” In fact, the daughter reported a “history of torture such as withholding food from them, destroying things, guilt and shame, and other things she did not want to remember. Moreover, his “mayor” addition to pornography as she witnessed on his computer.” (The CPS agent wrote “mayor” when the daughter, who is a teacher, I’m sure must have said “major”. Reportedly, the daughter witnessed the pedophile viewing child pornography, and she, her sister and her mother completely broke off all contact with her father, the pedophile, after that sister attended a conference on pedophilia.)
Despite the above background, your mother and her piece of shit lawyer took advantage of this event during the divorce. She claimed I abused you.
Did I? You were there. I did my best to raise you to be physically, mentally, and emotionally strong young men who will make positive contributions to the world. I got annual membership at the Oregon Zoo as well as the aquariums in Portland, Seattle, and Honolulu. We took regular trips to the beach and spent our last summer together exploring as many of the local streams and rivers as possible. For more than a year, I paid and took you to weekly child therapy with Ms. Nicole after you guys exhibited signs of distress after I moved out in 2010 and after Gramma died. According to my lawyers, taking children to weekly child therapy is the hallmark of non-abuse because child therapists are mandatory reporters and must report any child abuse they witness or suspect. In other words, I would have been an idiot to abuse you THEN take you to weekly therapy where the therapist could discover the abuse and have me punished.
On the other hand, I should note that during that entire period of more than one year, your mother refused to meet with your therapist, except once. Despite repeated requests for months from both me and Ms. Nicole, your mother refused to meet the second time, claiming she “couldn’t afford” to pay for such meeting … all while, according to court records, she regularly spent more than $900 per month on eating out and drinking coffee at Starbucks every day.
Because I paid for your therapy entirely out of pocket for more than a year (so that it wouldn’t be part of your insurance records), I ended up not having enough money for necessary dental treatment and ended up losing a molar. (I’ll show you both the referral for treatment and the subsequent loss of the tooth.) On the other hand, your mother wouldn’t give up her Starbucks latte and eating out everyday in order to meet with your therapist and discuss how best to support you. Which of us sacrificed for you?
Lawyers and the media have noted the increase in frequency of false accusations of child abuse, often by mothers, to gain advantage over the father during divorce proceedings.
recent studies illustrate how common false allegations are. In Ontario, an analysis of child abuse allegations in the Ottawa area revealed that 60% of accusations of abuse were related to marital breakup, and in two thirds of those cases there was no evidence of any abuse…. While both mothers and fathers have brought false abuse allegations in divorce proceedings, mothers are more likely to be believed.
http://www.expertlaw.com/library/domestic_violence/false_accusations.html. See, e.g
., “False Allegations in Divorce and Custody Battles,” by Dr. Tara Palmatier, Ph.D., http://shrink4men.com/2011/08/24/false-allegations-in-divorce-and-custody-battles-the-personality-types-of-false-accusers-and-the-falsely-accused/ (“Oftentimes, when a man finds himself the target of false allegations, he initially becomes paralyzed by shock and disbelief that a woman he once loved or still loves could perpetrate such a horrible lie upon him. The nightmare of false allegations is always compounded whenever children are involved.”); and, “Sexual Abuse Allegations in Divorce and Custody Disputes,” by Hollida Wakefield, M.A., and Ralph Underwager, Ph.D., http://www.ipt-forensics.com/library/saadcd.htm
(“Guyer and Ash (1986) noted a marked increase in the number of sexual abuse allegations in contested custody cases: 33% of 400 court-ordered evaluations in the preceding 5 years.”)
CPS thugs have been known to victimize the children when parents fight back. For example,
Vanessa Shanks had her kids taken away and, when she fought back, her relatives had their children taken away. Then, after she won in court, her attorney’s child was taken away. The former CPS workers said that kind of retaliatory power is common and, in the secretive, one-sided system, they can take anyone’s kids away on a moment’s notice – and get away with it.
Thus, to best protect you, my only and best option was to leave so that CPS thugs wouldn’t have any reason to take and place you in foster homes, and to fight to expose those fascist thugs.
Until we meet again, I love you with all my heart.