“ Respect yourself and others will respect you.”
“ To see what is right, and not to do it, is want of courage or of principle.”
“ What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.”
“ When anger rises, think of the consequences.”
“ When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves.”
“ They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.”
“ Fine words and an insinuating appearance are seldom associated with true virtue.”
“ Have no friends not equal to yourself.”
— Confucius, “The Analects”
My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:
In this day and age, we are constantly bombarded with messages about what is important in life: owning an iPad or iPhone, wearing Vans shoes or Rolex watches, having thousands of followers on Twitter or “friends” on Facebook, etc. Don’t be fooled by the hype. These are empty promises that will leave you … empty. In a few years, no one who matters will care what you wore, which cell phone you use, or the number of strangers who “friend” you on the ethernet.
However, people will remember what kind of person you are. Are you kind? honest? industrious? curious? open-minded? or, mean-spirited? dishonest? lazy? self-centered? closed-minded? etc.
Character matters. Always.
Be of good moral character. Do it for yourself. Be that guy who holds his head high because he lives a principled life.
Being good has additional benefits. For example, your conducts will attract like-minded individuals who also strive to be good people and who will enrich your lives. Further, being good will, hopefully, dissuade bad people from entering your circles.
Be good, my sons, and hold your heads high. Remember, too, to always stand tall, look people squarely in the eye, and don’t fidget.
All my love, always,