My dearest Shosh and Jaialai:
There has been a lot in the news recently about Dylann Roof, and his cowardly act of shooting unarmed and innocent people while they prayed. Today, the NY Daily News reported that losing a girl to a black man two years prior fueled his hatred for black people. The Daily News compared his actions to that of Elliot Rodger, another loser, who killed six people in 2014, because he lost his love interest to another. http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/dylann-roof-raged-black-guy-girl-report-article-1.2266378.
There are two lessons to be had here.
First, Shosh, remember what Teacher Mary used to say? Who is in charge of your body? You are! No one else is. Not your friends. Not your boss. Not anyone else. If you choose to do something at their urging — no matter how strong their urging, what you do is still on you.
Take ownership of your conducts. Be the best you can be. Live so that you have few regrets. Strive to do what is right, always. They say integrity is what you do no one is watching. Someone is always watching … you. Your conscience.
These days, too many are given to victim mentality. They blame everyone but themselves for what happens in their lives. Don’t be like them.
Life is never perfect. We play the hand we are dealt. Winners make the most of it. Losers whine.
In other words, we do not get to choose the conditions life gives us, but we get to choose how we react to those conditions. Winners solve the problems confronting them. Losers whine about their fate, and make excuses for their failures. To which group do you want to belong?
The second less has to do with the gentler sex. Here, I want you to be the best you can be, and hold out for the woman who is worthy of you. If someone you liked failed to recognized the amazing young man are, then it would be her lost, not yours.
Wait for the right one. Be patient. Don’t listen to the fools who say women are like buses and if you lose one, another will be along shortly. People are neither interchangeable nor replaceable. Hold out for the right one, then hold on to her with everything you have. A good woman is hard to find, and worth all your best efforts.
All my love, always,